Saturday, December 2, 2017

You Can't Be Everyone's Favorite Sauce

Not being invited to the party, or the group chat, or even just a hangout with your "friends" hurts. A lot. I've experienced this first hand quite a few times.
This past year (the past six months, especially) I've been dealing with a lot of hurt.
I couldn't understand why or how people could do things that hurt me so much and not realize it. Not apologize. Pretend to care again and then disappear right after.

And I hate being clingy, so I try not to be. If I feel unwanted, I back off and shut down.

Has there ever been someone (or more than one someone) in your life who you wanted to be friends with (maybe even best friends), but they just didn't seem to feel the same way?

I recently read this post a friend shared over Facebook. And it's amazing. Really.
I'm still dealing with my issues, trying to work out how to handle some things, but it's nice to know I'm not the only one who has these kind of problems and a reminder that, well, you can't be everyone's favorite sauce!

Chick-Fil-A Revealed the Recipe for Its Famous Sauce  -

In this post, Amy Weatherly is talking about how while visiting Chick-fil-A with her friends and kids, she noticed how everyone had a different choice of sauce. Some had Chick-fil-A, some had BBQ, some had ketchup, and everything in between.

Part of her post is shared below:

(Written by Amy Weatherly)
In & Out Beauty by Amy

“[Everyone] is different, and everyone chooses differently, and what everyone needs varies. So I probably shouldn't take it so dadgum personally when someone doesn't like me, when someone doesn't want to be my best friend, when I feel left out or excluded. I mean...I can't do it. I can't be everyone's Chick-fil-A sauce. And neither can you.

For some people, you are going to be too salty, and for others, you are going to be too sweet. For some, you will be too bold, and for others, you won't have enough flavor. You will be too much and not enough for some people's taste buds to handle and THAT IS OKAY.

That is soooo okay. God didn't make you to be loved by everyone. He didn't make you to be one-size-fits-all and generic and boring. He did not send you to this earth so that you could please all the people. He did not create you to be popular or to be invited to all the parties or to be included in every group text. He made you to love Him, and to follow Him, and to carry out His very specific purpose by being your very own distinct flavor.

Your flavor won't be for everyone. Take a deep breath and learn to be okay with that.

And the next time the devil tries to attack you, or make you stumble over the vicious lie that you are less than, or insecure, or like something is wrong with who you are, because you are feeling rejected, or alone, or unliked, repeat these words. Scream them if you must: I CAN'T BE EVERYONE'S CHICK-FIL-A SAUCE. And then just keep on running the race God has set out before you. Run it hard. Run it [well]. Run it long. And run it in your very own style.”


So there you have it. And yes, there's still going to be times you feel hurt and excluded and unloved. It's going to happen. But remember, there are people out there who couldn't live without you, and you ARE their favorite sauce!!!

I hope I've encouraged some of you as much I have myself. ;)

God bless,

~Livi Jane


  1. Wow, I loved this, Livi. Thank you so much for sharing! :)
    I haven't dealt with this as much as it sounds like you have, but there was a situation this summer where I met someone who just didn't seem to like me, although I did want to get along with them. What your friend Amy wrote is sooo true and such a great comparison.
    Something sorta-similar that I saw on Pinterest awhile back said something along the lines of "you may not be someone's favorite color, but one day, they will need you to complete their picture." And I love that. You may not be 'their person', Livi, but you have still touched their life. :) <3

    (And wow, I never leave comments that are this long. xD)

  2. Thank you so so much for sharing this Livi. What a great way to look at life. This was a huge encouragement for me!

  3. Wow that was so funny and yet true! Thanks for posting that Livi. :D